Something that I have always admired about my parents and grandparents is the wonderful example of hospitality that they demonstrate. In April due to various issues I switched host families. It has made a world of difference in my experience here and has introduced some amazing people into my life. Ana, my new host mom has welcomed me into her home with more hospitality than I could have ever dreamed of. After two days in her home I felt more comfortable than after two months in my first home. Ana is one of the most genuine and caring people that I have ever met, it’s quite inspirational actually.
(Maria in our kitchen!)
Anyone from home would stereotype Ana’s house as a home of a very poor family. She makes just enough to live comfortably but gives back to her community in so many ways. Ana is a social worker and spends her day working among the poorest of the poor. She walks all over the neighborhood visiting people in their homes and determines what they need and where support should be distributed. She is so passionate about her work and helping the people in the community it’s amazing. Here is a prime example.
Meet Maria, a hard working single mother of six. Maria came into Ana´s life a few months ago. One of the tutors in the parish library told Ana that Stephanie (Maria’s daughter) was sleeping through morning tutoring and not completing her class work. Ana stopped into the library and talked to Stephanie. She asked her why she was so tired and why she wasn’t working. Stephanie told Ana that she was too tired and too hungry. Stephanie hadn’t eaten dinner the night before or breakfast that morning. Ana proceeded to ask why her mother hadn’t come to the parish and ask for help. Stephanie told Ana that her mom works all day and was too embarrassed to ask for help. Ana sought out Maria and asked her why she didn’t come ask for help. Maria told her the same, that she was working all day and late into the night and was too embarrassed to ask for help. Ana told her that it is better to be embarrassed than to have kids that aren’t eating. When asked about her work Maria told Ana that she was working as a cleaning lady at a nearby house. Cleaning the 3 story house- earning 5 soles a day (that’s about 1.80 in American dollars daily) that’s 35 soles a week to feed her and her 6 children and pay for rent. In the evenings she worked cleaning a restaurant for a few additional soles. Needless to say she wasn’t making enough to put food on the table or to pay rent. She was kicked out of her house and forced to sleep on the street with her children.
For the past several months Ana has employed Maria. Out of Ana’s very minimal pay she supports Maria. Maria cleans the first level of the house and prepares breakfast and lunch. Ana taught Maria how to cook and now she prepares lunch for our home and prepares and delivers lunches for a group of individuals that cannot go home for lunch. With Ana’s help Maria is earning more money, learning life skills, and has the afternoons to spend with her young kids. With Ana´s help she is now eligible to receive food from one of the parish comedors (food kitchens) and someone donated money to buy land and build a small estera(straw)house for her and her family.
(The front of Maria's house, constructed with a material called estera)
I went with Ana on morning house visits and she took me to Maria’s house. It’s a pretty far trek from the parish. We arrived at her small wooden door supported by straw walls. We knocked on the door until Maria’s daughter Saudi answered. Saudi is 15, if Ana would not have told me that I would have assumed that she was no more than 8 years old. She is tiny. She never went to school because she spent her days taking care of her younger siblings. She is now in the first grade and studying at a special school on the weekends. She showed us around the house a bit. It consisted of dirt floors (incredibly wet due to the humidity), a few beds, a few buckets of water, a ton of trash, a chicken and a duck. No furniture, no place to sit, no place to eat, no place to study. That was it, a wet dirt floor and straw walls.
(this is the main living space in Maria's house)
(Host mom Ana (left) friend Charro (right)& Maria's son Jonathan)
(this is the floor of Maria's house- humid/wet, covered in trash)
(Saudi-15 and Lizabeth- 1 1/2)
(Cute cute cute but verrrrry naughty Patty-4)
I picked up Lizabeth, Maria’s 1 ½ year old daughter who was caked in dirt and immediately set her down- no diaper- and she had an accident. Saudi scooped her up and wrapped a rag around her little bum and put her in a pair of pants. No diaper, no wipes, no underwear.
It was very humbling to see the conditions in which Maria lives. She is such a loving & happy woman. Every morning she greets me with a great big hug and smile. She is so caring and cheerful despite her living situation, she appreciates what she has.
I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to work among people like Ana. When I asked Ana about Maria’s story she said, “Markie, we are poor. But Maria, and the others, they are really really poor.” She has so much passion to help those suffering around her. Day in and day out she works to improve the community. She see’s the desperation and suffering and remains positive and works effectively. I feel very fortunate that Ana and Maria have come into my life. I am learning so much from this experience. It seems that living simply like so many of these people do gives a greater appreciation for many things in life. How many times have we sat back and appreciated that we have a table to eat at, nutritious meals, and a floor that’s not made of dirt? It’s been a pretty big reality check to say the least. I hope that something I take home from this experience is taking the time to appreciate what I’ve been given and to live more simply.